A Sticky Situation

*This was written over the course of the past few days, and am just now getting around to posting it!

The big move to Oregon is just around the corner for our family, and the past few weeks have been a whirlwind of madness as we’ve been preparing for the relocation. (Hence the absence of blogging!) Funny how things work out… I started this project before we even knew Portland was in our cards. I said I wanted to take purging to the next level… There’s probably no better way of doing that than moving to another state!  

For those of you who said you’d like to join me on this purging journey, you didn’t realize it would be this intense, didja?? Let me know when you’ve all reserved your Uhauls.

Moving can be a fun adventure but on the flip side, the act of packing is a huge pain. You never realize just how much stuff you own until you start putting your entire life into cardboard boxes. Every time Mitch and I move (this is our 3rd move together), it amazes me how much we have accumulated. We aren’t hoarders by any means, in fact, I feel like we own much less than the average married couple, but it’s funny what we’ve decided to hold onto for this reason, or that. For example, this: 

Who on earth keeps the instructions manual for a George Foreman grill? (*raises hand, looks around, slowly drops hand before anyone notices*) I have a file folder specifically for manuals and therefore filed it away… But Mitch pointed out to me that I’ve not only kept this manual but I’ve moved it – TWICE – to new homes, and it’s gone completely unused, probably untouched since I took it out of the original box.  Why do I keep things just for the sake of keeping them? 

That’s not even that bad. Enter stage right: My collection of sticks. 

I don’t know what it is about sticks, but I love them, and I collect them from camping trips, walks around the neighborhood, etc. as visions of handmade crafts dance in my head. I have in fact used said sticks for a craft. ONCE. Boy, was that a proud moment.   

As we packed up for Oregon, I came across my beloved collection and I stared down at them, realizing I had reached a crossroads. I really did NOT want to let go of them. I worked so hard to collect them (you know, bending over and picking them up one by one!) Mitch witnessed me having this moment of introspection and with a stifled chuckle said, “You can’t take those.” I pouted and briefly disputed, but he followed up with, “Val… We’re moving to OREGON. Oregon probably has BETTER sticks than California.” 

Hmm. He had a good point. I mean, of course we won’t know for SURE about the quality of Oregon sticks until we get there, but there’s a definite possibility that I’ll find some that I like. 

So I only packed 5 of them. HAHAHA. I know, it’s ridiculous!! But hey, we all have our issues… 😉 Baby steps.

I’m sure most people have more sensible things that they hold onto. I say “sensible” but it still doesn’t mean it’s necessary. Furthermore, I’m discovering that what is necessary or meaningful for one person may not be the case for someone else. Minimalism looks different from person to person depending on priorities.  

For example, I owned that (awesome) collection of sticks BUT I don’t own an ironing board, something which probably baffles a lot of people (especially my own mother!) We don’t iron clothes often, and if we do need to dewrinkle our clothes, a folded towel on the countertop works just fine for us… OR, let’s be honest, sometimes a quick 10 minutes in the dryer. *wink wink* We also didn’t own a TV for the first 3 years of our marriage. We have one now (it was a gift from my parents) but don’t have cable. We have Amazon Prime and Netflix but chose not to get cable as a way to keep things somewhat simpler. Who needs 400 channels?? Obviously not having a cable bill is a great thing too. Similarly we’ve gotten by with only one car for the past 2.5 years, a feat that some think is impossible in LA/Southern California. Sure it makes some situations a little more complicated but it’s totally doable. 

I guess now that I’m thinking about it, we’ve been living out a certain minimalism for a while now, but we’re taking it up a notch, and while I may seem 100% enthusiastic, I’ll admit the challenge is a bit scary. I like “stuff” as much as the next person. But I refuse to let my life be about it. My prayer through this project is that I learn to fill my life with the deeper things, the things that take up no closet space, but instead overflow my heart. A journey of personal growth if you will. 

Maybe you’re thinking about how you can make your life a little simpler, but you’re not exactly looking to be a gung-ho modern minimalist. Maybe you want to explore minimalism but you don’t know where to start. I’m obviously no expert, but what I would suggest is thinking about what areas in your life you would like to simplify. Ask yourself in what ways are you possibly living excessively? 

Too many shoes? 

Too many video games? 

Too many trips to Starbucks? 

Too many toys for the kids? 

Too many mugs?

Remember the “things” are not necessarily bad… But most of us have become slaves to consumerism whether we want to admit it or not. It’s about our search for happiness in the end, and I truly believe that happiness we all long for can be found in the “Less is More” aisle.


5 thoughts on “A Sticky Situation

  1. Aunt Karen says:

    Oh, oh! Too much stuff is what we have and I’ll need a dumster to get rid of it as we’ve been in one place 17 years. I have cookbooks galore but don’t use them. Anyone interested? I’ll add nothing more for now as I’ve got a closet to admire…I dragged everything out and vowed not to put anything back until I’ve sorted and thrown. 🙂


    • 20mugs says:

      17 years is a long time to collect things! I bet you have some good finds in that closet. I recently got rid of a few unused cookbooks too! They were full of post-it notes marking all the recipes I aspired to cook for years but never did – HAHA!


  2. Vicky says:

    Valerie, ditch the manuals. Every single one of them can be found online. The same goes for cookbooks, but unfortunately my biggest weakness is books, any and all of them. I have culled out the herd but still cannot part with too many. It is an inherited trait from my mother (just happens to be one of the many things I love about her), but if I ever move again I know they will have to go… Maybe I will keep 5.


    • 20mugs says:

      Hahaha! 5, yes! I support that… 😉 Books are hard to part with for sure. We recently donated a few dozen books to Goodwill. I even had textbooks from college that I hadn’t cracked open since I crammed for the final exam. Funny how we think “Well, I might need this” about so many things.


    • Aunt Karen says:

      Cooking is so easy that I don’t use cookbooks except for baking pies, cakes, etc. my family knows me as the creative cupboard cook. I make simple but delicious meals. Ray prefers my food over restaurant food except for prime rib or crab legs which I don’t make. As far as that closet is concerned, I found a set of stemware that I’m going to sell because I haven’t used it in years.


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