YOWZA! It’s been a while since I last posted! I’ve been missing my little blog so much, but I’ve been swamped with work and motherhood and other life things that have taken priority for the past few months. Now it’s time to get back on track. The easiest way to do that is to just jump right in… so here we go!
When it comes to a living a simpler, more fulfilling life, I believe that we not only need to deal with the tangible objects that take up space (which is what I usually blog about) but it is equally crucial to purge mental and emotional clutter which can weigh us down and get in the way of some great life experiences.
One of the things I’ve been thinking about a lot lately is negativity, its impact on our lives, and the importance of getting rid of it.
I want to address THREE primary areas in which we need to fight and banish negativity. A decluttering of sorts, and I welcome you to join me… if you’re brave enough to take on the challenge!
- NEGATIVITY IN YOUR OWN MIND. When you allow your mind to be run by pessimism and putdowns, you’re setting yourself up for a miserable, unfulfilled life. I’m serious. Think about the most complain-y people you know. Do you think their minds are more full of positive or negative thoughts? And do they seem happy?? Think of your mind as a car, or a house. Get rid of the junk and fill it with the things that truly matter. I don’t know about you, but I only have a certain amount of mental energy each day and I don’t want to waste it on negativity. There are no benefits of having negative thoughts about yourself or others. It’ll slow you down, prevent you from focusing on your true values, and it could even prevent you from achieving goals you have set for yourself. Kick the pessisism to the side and fight to be a more positive person every minute of every day. When you start to feel negativity creep into your mind, BREATHE, and let the thought quickly pass. Overcome the moment by telling yourself something GOOD. There is always something good to tell yourself!
- NEGATIVITY IN RELATIONSHIPS. Something I have learned over the years is how crucial it is to say goodbye to toxic relationships and friendships. Refining our lives ought to be a top priority. We need to chip away at the negativity so that the beauty and brilliance we are meant to experience can be seen, felt, and shared. As I said above, we only have so much mental energy to give to people. Choose wisely who you are spending it on. I understand for some situations this is way easier said than done, but I still encourage you to try. Focus on making your inner circle of relationships one that energizes you, one that makes you believe in yourself more and more each day, one that brings you joy rather than stress. Decluttering in this area may not be easy, but it is absolutely doable, and you will thank yourself when you do it! Maybe you need to stop making excuses for someone. Maybe you need to stop doubting yourself. You do not need to make room for someone who constantly causes you pain or makes you feel small, and you don’t need to feel guilty for saying goodbye to a relationship that continues to bring you down. Realize that you deserve to be happy.
- NEGATIVITY IN SITUATIONS. So many people feel stuck. They feel that they’ve been dealt certain cards in life and have no option but to accept them. Nose to the grind, don’t complain, be strong, “it could be worse”, yadda yadda. I’m not sure why so many of us take on an attitude of martyrdom. Maybe it’s because there’s a sense of community in it (the whole “misery loves company” thing.) Maybe it’s because we don’t believe enough in ourselves. We feel helpless, and fearful about the idea of change. Don’t get me wrong, I completely advocate for looking at the bright side, counting your blessings, and pushing through adversity… but I’m not talking about tough times. I’m talking about our lives, and the ways we choose to live them. Each day that passes is a day we can’t get back. Every moment spent on negativity is a moment that could have filled you with joy. Ask yourself what would make you happier, what would bring you more peace, and think about the steps you need to take in order to get there. Talk to someone you trust about it. (Definitely talk about it, it becomes more real when you do, and the more real your goal is, the more likely you will try to achieve it.)
I hope this post speaks to someone, even if it’s just one person. I felt like I was supposed to write it. 🙂
REMEMBER… When we focus on minimizing the negativity in our lives, we clear the way for goodness to come pouring in. I dare you to try it!